Pastoral Leadership during Potential Conflict 101

Sam Rainer

Every position of leadership has its nuances. We pastors are no different. Those of us who shepherd God’s people have unique demands and quirks that come with our leadership roles in ministry. And in my three years as a pastor, I’ve learned the hard way that some secular leadership models simply do not work in the church.

A seasoned pastor bristling with sagacity recently reminded me of several characteristics of sound pastoral leadership, specifically relating to potential conflict within the church. I’ll share them with you.

Always tell the truth (even when it hurts)
Be transparent to prevent misperceptions of hiding information
Show humility in all situations
Do not attack those who attack you
Do not engage in malicious gossip
Love the people
Keep focused on the main things
Deal squarely and fairly with the issues
Be open with the people
Allow people the opportunity to vent and ask questions if needed
Keep your composure
Watch God work in the midst of negative events
Take a conflict and turn it into an opportunity
Be prepared and present the facts with clarity and composure
Pray constantly
Seek the counsel of key people in the church
Seek the counsel of those wiser than you
Work unceasingly to see the matter to resolution
Do not encourage conflict, but do not avoid necessary conflict
Demean no one
Never yield to ultimatums
Keep important records and documentation
Never let conflict (or your leadership) be about you
Show much compassion

Anything else that can be added to the list?