Today’s post was written by Rob Tims. His new book, Southern Fried Faith, is a great resource for established church leaders in the south. Check out his blog as well. "I don't know how you put up with it!" This was the statement of a 20-something church planter in the upstate of South Carolina upon hearing about the many challenges pastors face in established churches. "I don't know how you feed your family," I responded. He had a stay-at-home wife, four kids, a dilapidated truck, Read more [...]
Most of us have entered the twilight zone of worship announcements at some point. A person approaches the pulpit with the same gait as one walking the plank. A piece of paper unfolds, multiple times. The throat clears… loudly. What follows is usually awkward, many times painful, and sometimes memorable in all the wrong ways. In one of my churches I had to kill the death announcements. Historically, the church began worship services by announcing all member-related deaths. Nothing screams “Let’s Read more [...]
This column originally appeared in a local magazine in the region where I pastor. At times, I’ll post the column on this blog. Family night began without incident. My 18-month old and almost four year-old were smiling and laughing. We splurged on ice cream at Chick-fil-a. It was a good evening with the family. We decided to go bowling. It was a first for our family. You would think that eight-pound balls and small children would not be a good mix. But the hilarity of watching my daughters Read more [...]
According to the Social Security Administration, the oldest male name in the United States is Elmer, with a median age of 66. I want to make a point about how younger pastors relate to older generations in the church, so I’ll use Elmer as my example. Let me tell you about two Elmers. Both are close to being octogenarians. Both are grumpy. Neither want their church to change. If you were to wipe the dust off the library bookshelves, then Elmer One and Elmer Two would remind you it was there before Read more [...]
People talk. They talk behind your back. They talk about you. They talk about your leadership decisions. It’s normative. Expect it. And don’t call this talk gossip. Most of the time it’s not. If you’re a leader, then you probably lean towards being a control freak. It’s expected. Laissez-faire leaders don’t typically last long. In many ways, leadership is simply interference with the status quo. When people talk, you want to shape the conversation. That’s healthy. That’s leadership. What Read more [...]